Holy macaroni, it's been a while I didn't write any journal of this kind (on a hand, I'd think this kind of journal would start pissing some people off too), but after seeing more and more of these kind of people on DeviantArt, I believe there is a serious issue that really needs to be adressed there.
Empathy, the hability to put yourself in someone else's shoes, understand their pain and what they are going through, and being a caring person... these are two amazing qualities I value in life.
... that's probably why people who use these qualities in people around them, to turn them into weaknesses and get what they want are probably the kind of people I hate the most.
And there quite a lot of people on DeviantArt who are like that; they'll write something to take advantage of people's caring natures to get attention on them, because they are men/women babies who need people to get sorry for them.
Recently I gained a watcher who quickly turned out to be annoying, and seeing his comments seems like things weren't really easy in his life. Yah, allright, that's sad. The guy seems to have unwatch me but checking his profile again, I noticed he -excuse me- his girlfriend wrote four journals about him. About how he has gone missing, then how he apparently was found bruised and hurt because someone tried to kill him because of his "oh sooo different opinions", and then he was in a coma but at the end, in a really short amount of time, the agressor was arrested and put to prison, he was now fine and would really quickly start commenting nonsense again.
And of course tons of people would comment to say say how awful it was, pity him and everything...
Where do I even start? In a previous comment the guy would admit that he had an arguent with his girlfriend, and then when he vanished, the first thing she would do was write a journal with his account to say that? Wouldn't you have better things to do if your boyfriend/girlfriend went missing? ... better things like... trying to find her/him? And did you really give her access to your account?
And he wasn't the only one to do that. Months ago I've seen another guy pretending that he had a bad day because "he got hit by a car" ("oh no I've been hit by a car, that's sooo going to ruin my day!") and later posting another status about how he was at the hospital for reasons... and in the comment section someone would say "dude, you're not lucky, ending up at the hospital all the time", and the guy would reply "oh, about the car, I lied"... then what tells us that what you are saying now is true? The worst was probably that in the comment section of the "hit by a car" status, the dude was pissed off because one of his friends didn't seem to buy it...
And as another last example, I remember a girl who yelled at me for reporting her friend who was copying my art/trolling/doing a lot of nasty stuff once wrote a journal about how she felt depressed and thought about committing suicide or so. And once again, in the comment section, most of her friends would try to confort her. To which she would reply "I JUST CUT MYSELF!!!"...
Wha... whe... how... how do you guys don't see she's fishing for your attention if she writes it? Damn, for someone who just cut herself, she sure is eager to share it! So eager in fact that she doesn't seem to care spilling blood everywhere on her keyboard!
I think it's enough with the examples, thank you a lot Britney for helping illustrate them. You are the best.
My point is; I'm an extremely naive person... or at least I was. I also had "friends" lying to me about their own life to get me to feel sorry for them in real life, which is something I find disgusting. You never do that to someone you call a friend.
Like I said previously, empathy and being caring are two things that are absolutly amazing in a person. I beg you guys to never let anyone take advantage of your qualities. Learn to make the difference between people who NEED your attention and people who will do anything to GET attention. When reading a journal of the kind of those I mentionned there; doubt, think and analazise. Use your empathy and common sense to make the difference between what seem true and what is just invented. Ask yourself those questions; what would I do if I was them? Would I really immediatly rush on dA to say that? Do they really had the time to do all of that? Would they really be in such a sane mental state after what seem to have happened to them?
You'd never be sure at 100% if what you're reading is true. Heck, maybe I'm giving my attention at someone who are just inventing themself an awful life and I ignore it? Who knows? I'd say that in doubt it's better to confort the person, but at least try to think a bit before commenting and maybe you'll learn to spot something that seems way too suspicious.
That's all I wish to you guys, stay nice and caring, but don't let people take advantage of your qualities; because they ARE the most precious of qualities.